The Truth About Balancing Business and Family

0:00 All my buddies who struggle that their kids like their mom, the mom, more than them, I'm like, bro, we're in that. I'm like, there's only so much we could do as dads. They're like, like we're in them physically in them. Like. I always find that fascinating. Of course, there's a different thing with your mom. Commercial Real Estate Secrets listeners. Over the next few episodes I am actually bringing back segments of a conversation I had with Gary Vee, the man better known as Gary Vaynerchuk, about a year and a half ago. If you don't know who Gary Vaynerchuk is, he's an all time business professional, probably the most documented influencer of all time, but he's got a few 9 figure exits under his belt and is the real deal. What he is breaking down isn't about trends, what he's breaking down is about psychology, attention, business. And essentially what has been overwhelming to me is the way that I have still come back to this conversation and it still applies to today.

0:59 So if you're a commercial real estate professional, a professional looking for life or business advice, this episode is for you. You're going to love it. It was certainly a life changing episode and I hope you enjoy it as much as I do. So thank you for listening and let's jump in. I am 8 months pregnant with my first child. Wow. Yeah, amazing. I know, How do you manage a family while still being a thought leader in your field? By not beating yourself up and giving yourself grace to go through what you're going through, both amazing, like what you're about to go through, and even challenges, You know, a lot of people been getting a lot of emails lately about people grieving. Yeah.

1:41 You know, like, unfortunately, you know, I'm getting older. So some of my friend groups or some of the people that have been following me for a long time are also getting older. When you get older, you know, there's a lot of great things that come along with it, wisdom, appreciation, perspective. But there's also challenging things, which is you start getting into those life cycles where you start losing loved ones. And my answer has been give yourself grace. Like somebody with the other day was like, how do I keep crushing my business? It's been doubling year over year. But I just lost. He lost his mom and dad in a six month period for separate reasons. I just said, brother you, it's OK if you don't. Yeah, like, you might be cliche and like, lean into your work and you might triple. It's not sustainable. And you're gonna have to get that pain out at some point. So I would say you would be like, you know, first child being the mother. You know, fathers have different variables than mothers. You know, this child's in you.

2:26 I always tell all my buddies who struggle that their kids like their mom, the mom more than them. I'm like, bro, we're in that. I'm like, there's only so much we could do as dads. They're like, like, we're in them physically in them. Like, I always find that fascinating. Of course there's a different thing with your mom, like you grew in there. So you know, for me, I look at it as again, if we're best friends since grammar school and we're like just talking on the phone, I'm saying to you like, hey, be like just fucking enjoy this first year. First of all, you've no idea how you're going to feel, right? There's all that stuff, right? Is it easy? Is it hard postpartum this like support from like they're just like it's real life. Sure, you know, it's real life. I think giving yourself grace that this next year, who knows what it's going to be and but but I want to be 70 and look back at that.

3:13 I gave it my all for the child more so than the business. But don't also if on the second day of the child's life, if you're like excited to grab your phone and like e-mail a client, you're not a horrible mother. Like you're a human being that is lucky that they're passionate about what they want to do and like balance comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes. So my answer to you is give yourself grace.